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The voices raised against 18 again .In India majority are
all men. in the west majority women.
Kind of gives you an idea where societal hypocrisy is tilted
in each place.
In our country of course the men have decided they are the
voice of the women as women cant talk
for themselves ,that is the reason why we have groups called women activists …we don’t have as many men activists groups ,they don't need activating. But unfortunately
the women activists often themselves turn against women and that's a pity.
To illustrate the most effective Aids Campaign we did at Lowe
“Balbir Pasha” .It was primarily to protect the
wives in villages of husbands who visit CSWs in the cities where they
come for work. So we addressed the man and told him to be careful of the perils
of visiting a CSW when they visit them
.Here is what the women activists said, it’s priceless- you are
indicating that women spread the virus by blaming the CSW! I could not believe
this…wake up and smell the coffee you self appoint moral police. Look at
reality . women in villages are contracting the virus everyday through their
husbands ,passing it on the children and dying. For no fault of theirs. If it had to take us to scare the husband
directly ,we would do so and that is what we did.
But this what the women activists are .women who have no
idea about anything that is reality but have some obvious alerts that they will
go after.To make their presence felt. Pointless hue and cry
And then of course the hue and cry that has come from the west ,I guess the women there ,wait to make a social issue out of
everything ,no surprises there.
Their antennae is so up so all the time that everything is
about man woman or racial discrimination, even when it is not.
And as usual some
other country’s issue superficially will
be taken up by them made to sound like it is theirs to fight for .Fight your
own battles please.
These are the countries that have afternoon classes for
women to teach them fellatio techniques ….now give me break you women lib
shouters.
Most women I have met have not found the ad offensive ,nor
have the found the product insensitive.in fact they have found it useful and I
am talking about women across socio economic strata. There are women who need
this product for crying out loud ,why doesn’t anyone get that?
And every comment that has come about vaginal tightening
gives the man pleasure ,not the woman ,has come from men .
Gosh! One, I pity the sex lives of their wives and partners and
two I really honestly want to ask them do they really believe that women feel
nothing when they are having sex. That it does not matter because of lose vaginal muscles you are not
as satisfied with your man as you can be. Women are not mattresses lying below
or on top you (hopefully) to let you do your thing and walk off.
They don’t say it ,does not mean they don’t feel it. Women
equally enjoy sex. That you don’t care whether they do or not is a different
thing.
And surprise surprise for all you moral pandits who are
questioning the product ,there are women buying it. So I rest my case that it
is not needed.
And for all those women who don’t enjoy sex and don’t want
to experiment in trying to enhance it ,please don’t buy it. Simple. You can
enjoy your silent quiet sex and make noise for other things.
Child birth is something a woman goes through because of
love affection and wanting a family. But she goes through it. Not the man. And
yes it alters her physically. Then it leads to insecurity .
And it also leads to other problems like voluntary urine discharge which is
embarrassing to say the least. And this happens to women as they reach menopause
as well even if they haven’t given birth to a child.In our country physical
fitness and muscular strengthening exercises are close to 1% per cent among
women and almost nil among married women. These are things that prolong the
muscle laxity in the vaginal region.in the absence of exercise ,
if there is a product which can actually make her get back
the muscular strength she had before delivery why not?
Now our women activist will say your discouraging women from
exercising isn’t it? there is no logic.
Then of course comes the fact on the words used in the advertising .
Virgin. Apparently saying I feel like a virgin is an
indicator to saying.Men want virgins when they get married. How is the ad doing
that.
Feeling like a virgin is a descriptor of how a woman feels
.Not what her husband wants her to be. Where did they arrive at this
conclusion. We have shown a married woman happy with a man . She is not about
to get married or is doing a moo dikhai.
It is just describing the physical difference the product has made to her.
Stupid. Stupid. No one seems to be noticing that the woman has taken the lead
in this ad . She is celebrating what she feels without caring a damn for what
the man thinks of her. It is not what conventionally gets shown for woman
products where the man suddenly likes you because you used the product and before
he dint. I guess people who want to poke holes will only see what they want to
see.
Then the next word Vagina . how can you call a vaginal cream
a vaginal cream?
Why. Because my five year old will ask me what it is .
Kids today ask you about their anatomy at the age of 2. And
specifically about their private parts and why girls don’t have what boys have
.And if you are mature and intelligent enough you will find a way to explain to
them . And if your stupid enough you will ask them to not to talk about this.
Not because they should not know ,because you are incapable of giving an
intelligent answer.
At a point in time there was ban on condom advertising in
the prime time.
Same silly reason .Children will ask. Please tell them. It
is better you tell them, then they getting to know about it from somewhere
else. That too something wrong. Children don’t walk around with their eyes
closed .they see things and grasp thing more than we know they do .they are
confused and curious and want answers. And it is your responsibility to give
them those answers .This, constantly trying to hide things from them makes it
all the more meatier for them to go and find it out fro the wrong kind of
mediums. Don’t make sex and everything associated with nether region seem wrong
and they wont go about doing things wrongly. And hiding it from you.
I am sure the hurt of a kid coming home and using the “f “ word
is far more ,than when he asks you what it means and you explain to him the
word is an abusive word so don’t use it or whatever else you want to tell him.
But tell him.If he asks about condoms tell him
Condoms are good and they are for protecting you from
disease when you grow up. So he does not feel embarrassed to ask for one and
use it when he grows up.
And that is why I applaud aamir khan’s episode on telling
the children the way things are openly when he addressed child abuse.
Most of the times we adults are responsible for children
keeping quiet about such things because we constantly hammer it in their heads
this is wrong ,that is wrong so they feel wrong and keep quiet. You need to
help them talk and ask you questions. No one can answer them better than you.
I am not supporting this just because we have done the
communication and the brand is ours. I would support any thing when I believe
it is right.
I fight back the same way when people have issues on
fairness creams. Who are you to decide whether a woman wants to be fair or not.
If she does then she does . If she is comfortable with her dusky skin so be it.
different people have different needs and they cant be about you and what your
principles are . Don’t use a particular product if you have issues with it
,like I don’t eat burgers. I would suggest spend that energy and that passion
on some actual real social work like helping underprivileged children or
stressed animals or take a broom and sweep the streets .that is real activism
and not shouting and screaming wasting your breath to show off your political
or social projections which are meaningless. The manufacture of fairness creams
has not stopped ,nor will the manufacture of sex enhancement products stop. Now
imagine the waste of energy .And how much good it could have been put to.
I feel it is wrong to make a manufacturer of a progressive
product feel like he has done some great injustice to the nation. Why. Just
cause he made a product for women to enhance their sexual pleasure? This is an
advanced product. Fully natural ,no side effects .And does a host of good
things for the women . Sexual pleasure is one them. Read .Find out . Understand
.Where science and medicine is progressing rather than just screaming and
shouting about semantics and words .Please
When will we stop being so hypocritical and start being real
.A woman is not a thing of sexual pleasure she is an equal partner in it.
Encourage her to be that .
I again reiterate women enjoy sex as much as men do. Men
don’t let them that is the problem.
So it is not a wonder that 90% of Indian women have not
experienced an orgasm ,that is because 90% of Indian men don’t know how to
bring a woman to it. Men who are small, in the mind and you know where else
(cant say the word)
For all those men, I
will say a small prayer for your wives. Amen.
